How to be You, With Added Sparkle!

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Photo by millicent_bystander

Everyone, at some point in their lives, feels inadequete. We’ve all been at the bottom of the work “food chain”, or felt like the ugly duckling in a room full of stunners, but I can say with certainty that I have never met anyone who doesn’t have something amazing to contribute to the world. So, as a follow-up to yesterday’s post, here’s my guide to being happy in your own skin and sparkling as the amazing person you are!

* Whether you have a high-flying career or a part-time job in Macdonalds, your job is no reflection on the person you are, so don’t allow it to define you. It’s an occupation that gives you the means to survive, that’s all.

* Likewise, don’t be defined by your posessions. I’ve fallen guilty of this one, when I’m down or feeling lost, I surround myself with Stuff, and take hollow comfort in the fact that I hoarde shiny things. If all of this vanished tomorrow, you’d still be you, so don’t allow your posessions to control your actions.

* Focus on what you love about yourself, as stated in Gem’s post yesterday. If you are more confident in your good points, people will see this, and the things you perhaps want to hid or would rather were not seen as prominent will go unnoticed.

* Take the time to find out your talents. Everyone has them, you may be a great artist or musician, or perhaps you’re brilliant at remembering random facts, or an incredibly fast reader, make it an important part of your life. Start a blog or write a ‘zine about it, make it a regular hobby, even consider a career change, doing something well is exceedingly satisfying.

* Make an effort to do the little things you know you’ll feel good about later. Whether that’s dressing nicely for work as opposed to throwing on the first vaguely smart outfit you find, or taking the time to make something delicious to take for lunch to cheer yourself up in the middle of the day, it’s amazing what a positive effect these things can have on your day!

* Take no notice of the naysayers! If your friends don’t support you, they don’t deserve you. If you come up against constructive criticism, try to take something positive from it, but if people are rude and / or abusive, pay them no heed. Their comments are no reflection on you, they’re in all likelyhood jealous of how great you are.

* Take time for yourself every day, even if it’s just a few minutes, to relax and do something you want to do.

* If you ever find yourself doing something you don’t want to do just because everyone else is, stop and speak up. Chances are someone else will feel the same way and even if they don’t have the courage to join you, your actions will make a difference to them.

* Make an unselfish gesture every day, and treat yourself every day. Small things, such as picking up something someone has dropped, making someone a coffee, giving your spare change to charity, etc. can be so upliting, likewise  with small treats! It’s amazing how much of a boost to your mood a bar of your favourite chocolate, an hour of “guilty pleasure” TV or a small purchase can give you.

* Do what you want, don’t put it off! If you want to start that novel, do it! If you’ve been longing to visit Paris, start saving up and go! See today’s Thought for the Day on Miss Corrine, one that’s definitely worth saving!

Never forget how fabulous you are and don’t be afraid to be a bit different from the crowd, life would be so boring if we were all the same!

How do you stay true to your amazing, sparkling self?

8 Responses to “How to be You, With Added Sparkle!”

  1. Awwww, thank-you so much for the link-age, Vixel – you’re so wonderful! 🙂 Great post – I loved every word of it. For me, the most important thing is to keep a positive perspective – I definitely believe that happiness is a choice, and not only helps us to manifest an incredible life, but helps us to survive and appreciate the less-lovely moments. Thank-you for your beautiful words, and keep up the fantastic work! xx

  2. Very inspiring and positive – I really enjoyed reading this post! Keep it up 🙂

  3. It’s awesome to see so many girl-bloggers writing powerful and positive stuff! I like the idea of being myself “with added sparkle”. 🙂

  4. Thank you for the great post. Have been a little down recently, definitely needed your ‘pick-me-up’ recommendations.

  5. Fantastic post! I agree with you that your job/career does not define who or what you are. It is definitely what you make it. I think we all feel a little lost at times and yes, material things do tend to fill in that void. I know that I do it. How do you think I got my first pair of Chanel sunglasses? 😀

    Something that I used to do is every day think of something that made me happy. It could be something as simple as the weather being just perfect or something happening in my life. I stopped doing it and I am not sure why.

    Off to read Gem’s post.

  6. Thank you! 😀

  7. Personal happiness is a choice. It doesn’t matter what we have or what we do for work, that is not who we are.

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